There’s a BIG MISMATCH between how you think you’re viewed by others and how they actually see you. In fact, you really have no idea how you come across. “What matters about you, to someone else, is whatever has the most meaning for them – not for you,” according to The Guardian’s Oliver Burkeman.
First and foremost, it’s crucial that the feedback you get is valuable – especially feedback about your Blind Spots (things about you known to others, but not to you).
This is a big challenge as this information can be hard to come by, especially from your team and direct reports. However, for you to grow and develop yourself, it’s critical that you get access ASAP. Success in achieving your goals depends on it – especially the ones that really stretch you.
This article aims to help you tackle this challenge…
3 STEPS TO FIX THE MISMATCH
1. Understand It:
Use the highly effective Johari Window Model to help you learn about yourself and come to terms with your Blind Spots. Get to learn what’s behind (red) door number 2.
2. Seek It Out:
Recognize the mismatch between the perceiver and the perceived (you) and seek out valuable feedback.
3. Take It:
Once you’ve asked for it, you’ve got to be willing and able to take it. If you react negatively you’ll destroy the trust with the giver and your chance of ever receiving it again.
TOP TIP: Give your collaborators permission to give you honest feedback. In fact, for the best solutions you want others to question your ideas.
TAKE ACTION TODAY
There are numerous reasons to check your Blind Spots ASAP. Here are 3 BIG ONES:
- Honest opinions are highly valuable because they help you see what you can’t see yourself. So get past your discomfort.
- It will open up possibilities that were unknown or hidden before, i.e. lead to your full potential.
- Feedback is just someone’s opinion, not a fact. However, if there’s any truth in it you do want to know so that you can make the necessary changes.
So find a way to access yours today!
P.S. If you’d like help getting past your Blind Spots so that you can “spread your wings”, check out my KICKSTARTER 1-to-1 coaching program and see if it’s the right fit for you.