You can’t be everything for everybody. Some reports will find you too directive, others not enough. However, you can listen to feedback and adjust your style when needed.
In everything you do, seek to understand first and act second. There is no right way to lead your team or group. It is as unique as every individual in it. Therefore, your paradoxes and the balance you need to find for each of them will look differently than mine.
In parts 1 and 2 I have presented 7 which I consider most relevant to people managers working right now. Apply the relevant tips and examples as needed.