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How to Regain Your Balance and Perform at Your Very Best

What is really going on?

Without a doubt, life can be crazy. At times it feels like the walls are closing in around you – work is out of control and your personal commitments are exploding…

However, could there be something else going on with you? Is there an inner conflict that needs to be resolved? A tough question that needs to be addressed?

If so, you need to know. ASAP.

The aim of this article is to help you clarify what’s happening on the inside, so you can perform at your best on the outside.




  1. Am I overwhelmed or unfulfilled?

You know yourself better than anyone. You’re aware of what’s going on inside and outside of you.

However, each and every one of us can benefit from asking the questions: Are my work-life responsibilities killing me? Am I unhappy with where I am right now?

Some people would argue that if you’re energized by your work, it won’t burn you out.

Here’s one professional on an extreme end of the spectrum:


What’s your take on that?

Either way, getting clarity on this question can provide relief BIG TIME. Perhaps you just need better prioritization skills?

After all, just because something’s important doesn’t mean it’s urgent. Or that you have to be the one to do it.

But if there is something else going on you with, you definitely want to know about it. Plodding ahead and keeping yourself busy (and distracted), is not a solution to your problem (BTW, “Busy is the New Lazy”).

On the subject of distractions…

  1. Why do I keep myself distracted?

Checking work e-mails after work or repeatedly checking your Facebook updates on the weekend, I’m sure there are times when you’re choosing to be connected (even when unnecessary).

Be honest with yourself – Can my e-mail response wait until tomorrow? Do I really need that Facebook app on my phone?

I don’t know your individual situation but if you’re like me and many people I know, you choose to be ‘connected’ even when you don’t need to be. I get it – you like being “in the loop”. Me, too. But do you really need to be?

Of course there are times and situations because of your job role when you do. But I’m guessing there are just as many times when you could “sit things out”.

Here’s one of the best tips I heard last year for creating more time:

Choose the app you use the most on your phone and delete it. 

You might be lost without it…but you may be just fine.

  1. Have my priorities changed?

Are the things that were important to me 12 months ago still just as important? Or has my situation changed, and priorities shifted as a result?

Perhaps everything looks the same for you as it did a year ago. However, take a few minutes to look at your top priorities and make sure your activities are aligned.

It’s quite probably that some things have changed and your activities need a fresh look…with editing pencil.

Also, are your expectations still current? And realistic?

If you made the goal in 2017 to run a marathon and spent several hours a week training for it…is the training time in 2018 still necessary and important to you? Or, would that time be better spent working toward some of your new goals? Or spent with family or friends?

Whatever your priorities, it’s important that you…




Getting clarity on these questions can help you resolve inner conflicts and regain balance for your Peak Performance. After all, there’s no bigger conflict trigger than ambiguity.

And to feel and perform at your best, you’ve got to be aware of what’s driving you. That is – why you do, what you do.

This will allow you to be present with yourself and the people around you. This is the greatest gift you can give anyone.

What question or tip can you share with me and my readers?

  • Hey Tim,

    thanks a lot for this wake-up-call.
    Reading it, I felt myself caught – at least a little. I actually am really happy with my work and can easily get lost in it. At the same time, being happy in my job, being in a flow gives me a lot of energy – inside and outside. Energy that also spreads to my personal life (if one needs to separate one from the other ;)).

    But you are totally right – it is important to consciously disconnect.
    And here it is important to take responsibility for yourself. Especially in large corporation many people complain about the employer not taking enough care for the work life balance of their employees. But I think it is not just the corporate duty. Everyone is responsible for him/herself and how to stay in balance.

    • Hi Monique – thanks for your comment! I agree – comapnies are no longer “looking out for” their employees, which means we are now 100% responsible for taking care of this balance. And we all have very different pain thresholds and boundaries. I just know from my personal experience that when I’m energized by a task, I have a lot more stamina:).