There’s a BIG MISMATCH between how you think you’re viewed by others and how they actually see you. In fact, you really have no idea how you come across. “What matters about you, to someone else, is whatever has the most meaning for them – not for you,” according to The Guardian’s Oliver Burkeman.
First and foremost, it’s crucial that the feedback you get is valuable – especially feedback about your Blind Spots (things about you known to others, but not to you).
This is a big challenge as this information can be hard to come by – especially from your team and direct reports. However, for you to grow and develop, i.e. make REAL CHANGE, it’s critical that you get access ASAP.
This article aims to help you tackle this challenge…
HOW TO FIX THE MISMATCH
Here are 3 small but key steps you can take right now:
1. Understand It:
Use the simple and highly effective Johari Window Model to help you learn about yourself and come to terms with your critical issues.
2. Seek It Out:
Recognize the mismatch between the perceiver and the perceived (you) and seek out valuable feedback.
3. Take It:
Once you’ve asked for it, you’ve got to be willing and able to take it. If you react negatively you’ll destroy the trust with the giver and your chance of ever receiving it again.
TIP: Give your collaborators permission to give you honest feedback. In fact, for the best solutions you want others to question your ideas.
In summary, here are 3 BIG REASONS to check your Blind Spots:
- Honest opinions are highly valuable because they help you see what you can’t see yourself. So get past your discomfort.
- It will open up possibilities that were unknown or hidden before, i.e. lead to your full potential.
- Feedback is just someone’s opinion, not a fact. However, if there’s any truth in it you do want to know so that you can make the necessary changes.
What helps you access your Blind Spots?